Couple marries after both serve missions, husband overcomes fear and doubt to propose

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Gosuke Kawano
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Herbert Ishibashi, a junior studying elementary education from the Big Island, and Jazmine Ishibashi, a biology freshman from New York, said despite challenges, they are ready to take the next step in their relationship towards marriage.

According to Jazmine, the two met in the Big island right before Herbert left for his mission. She said, “We had a light conversation with each other and spent time going out in a group date.”

After some time, Herbert left to serve in the Fiji Suva mission. They kept in touch, and a couple of weeks before his return he asked Jazmine if she was dating anyone or had a steady boyfriend.   

Jazmine said, “He already knew I didn’t want a steady relationship because I was planning to go on a mission, but he decided to take the chance.” They dated when he got back, and then she went on her mission to Armenia Yerevan mission. 

Even though there were times when they felt lonesome from being apart while on missions or at school, Herbert said they felt trust toward each other and didn’t have to worry so much.

“After her return, we resumed dating again one-on-one,” he said. “Our first date was to watch sunrise and go to the farmer’s market.”

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They both felt the chemistry on that date, said Herbert, and the more he got used to going out with her the more their relationship deepened.

Two months later, Herbert said he felt impressed to ask Jazmine to be married. “I wanted to get everything squared away by talking with her parents about proposing.”

Although the couple talked about marriage, Herbert said he “got scared to take the next step.”

He said, “I wanted to propose to her, but I couldn’t.  There was something keeping me back.” He said it was his feeling of doubt and fear of moving to the next step, but he decided to purchase the engagement ring.

His doubt and fear went away one day when Herbert got into a car accident, he said. Although he was not severely injured physically and was able to go home, he was unable to sleep much. “The next morning when I woke up, I said a prayer and felt the impression that God gave me another chance to do what I should do,” he said.

Herbert said he tried to spend as much time with Jazmine after that. And while they were at the stake center, Jazmine played the piano for him. He said “I was so moved by the peaceful moment I was spending with her that I burst into tears. I was just grateful that I was able to be in the room with her.”

After a couple of minutes, Jazmine told him, “Maybe Heavenly Father kept you alive to marry me.” Right after Herbert heard that, he said the same impression came to his mind again, and he proposed to her on the spot. They were married at the Laie Hawaii Temple on Dec. 22, 2016.

Kawehi Housman, a junior double majoring in elementary education and Hawaiian studies from the Big Island, said, “Growing up, we always hear that opposite attracts. That’s exactly what Herbert and Jazmine are. Herbert was very shy growing up, and Jazmine was the total opposite. She was energetic and outgoing. As a couple, it’s like they even each other out.”    

Date Published: 
Thursday, April 20, 2017
Last Edited: 
Thursday, April 20, 2017