Valentine's Day advice for couples and singles

Written by: 
Hannah Jones

Regardless if you’re single or taken, BYU-Hawaii students shared their favorite Valentine’s Day date ideas and advice for getting through the holiday single.

Kylee Haynes, a freshman from Idaho majoring in elementary education, said a good date is “a picnic on the beach at sunset.”

Haynes explained, “It’s romantic and it’s thoughtful and you can get to know someone because you have lots of time to talk and learn about each other.”

According to Haynes, this date is appropriate for all stages of a relationship. She said, “I’d appreciate it as a first date, but also if I was in a long-term relationship.”

Haynes recalled the best date she’d ever been on. She said, “It was on my birthday and my boyfriend surprised me with a picnic. We hiked up this waterfall and then had the picnic and it was really thoughtful of him because he packed all my favorite foods.”

An ice cream date is always a good go-to date idea, she added. “It’s simple. I mean, they’re good as an actual date, but I feel like it would be more fun to have a big date and then ice cream after.”

She noted that not everyone goes on a date for Valentine’s Day and provided advice to help get through the holiday alone. “If you’re single and you can’t find anyone to go out with, go with some friends and pretend they’re your dates.”

Haynes provided a few other date suggestions: “A hike would be fun, or a nice dinner, a barbecue on the beach. Basically anything with food.”

Lasater Kinikini, a junior from Utah majoring in psychology, shared his ideal Valentine’s Day date. “Long walks on the beach staring at the stars.” He then laughed and said, “Just kidding.” His actual ideal date involves “food and a movie, anything with food. Most important thing is good food and then any activity.”

Comparing a good date to a bad one, Kinikini remembered his worst date. “We went to Temple Square. What makes it the worst is that I tried to hold her hand and she didn’t want to. Then I just took her home because I didn’t want to be with her anymore.” After laughing it off, he remembered, “This was like our fourth date.”

Kinikini addressed those who don’t have a special someone to celebrate with on Valentine’s Day. “It’s a good time to just love yourself, you know. You’re a team. There’s a lot of other people who are lonely on Valentine’s.Just get together and go on a man date or get the girls together and go on a girl’s date.”

For this year, he said he is “grieving at the moment. I just got out of a relationship, so I’m probably not going to do anything. I’m going to find a bunch of other lonely people, go watch a movie and go get food.”

Although experiencing loneliness at the moment, Kinikini’s favorite part about Valentine’s Day is the courage people have.

He shared, “I like the thought that there’s people all over the world going out of their comfort zone to be a little courageous and ask that person that they like out on a date or do something special for that someone. It’s them taking the leap, the leap of faith.”

Trella Schlutsmeyer, a freshman from California majoring in art, advised that a good Valentine’s date for Hawaii residents is hiking. She said, “I feel like when you’re hiking it’s easier to talk then when you’re watching a movie or bowling.”

For Schlutsmeyer, knowing she can talk with the person is a necessity. “Otherwise, I don’t want to hang out with them. I need to feel comfortable and safe.”

Schlutsmeyer recalled her past few Valentine’s Days. She said, “I typically have a ‘Galentine’s Day’ and hang out with friends. I was just talking to my family and I told my brother that he could be my valentine.

“If you’re single, I think thinking of other people you love and celebrating your friends and family helps, she said.

For her first Valentine’s Day in college, she wants “to hang out with my friends. A girl’s night out.”

Date Published: 
Monday, February 12, 2018
Last Edited: 
Monday, February 12, 2018