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Dating advice to girls from guys

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I hear women complain often how guys don’t ask them out. I’ve been the witness of aggressive conversations from date-starved women who snarl at boys, telling them they need to “shape up and date them already.” On these occasions, I ask myself, “Why would a boy want to date a bitter, slavering she-wolf?” So, ladies, I will turn that question to you for some light introspection as I ask men, “What can women do to make it easier for men to ask them out?”1. Make an effort.“Give guys the green light,” said Robert Bonds, a tall, muscular surfer from Glendora, Calif., living in Laie. “It’s not up to women to initiate romance, but chances are a lot better if they give the green light. It’s something so minor—like at FHE. If we’re screwing around and you give me a high five, some sort of interpersonal contact, a hello, a handshake, a smack on the butt or something.” Josh Wallace, a sophomore in music performance from California, served a mission in the City of Love, the France Paris Mission. He gave his own advice for women: “You know there’s a certain way a girl looks at you. They stare past your eyes—they stare into your soul. I want that. That would be something that would help me know they’re into me.” Making an effort to show men you’re interested varies from man to man, ranging from butt slaps to soul-staring. However, what Wallace advised women to do is use their body language and tone of voice to show men they’re interested. In a faux-feminine falsetto, Wallace cooed a sample of correct body language and tone, “Hey Josh, umm, it’s so good to see you,” he said as he flipped imaginary curls. “Ooooh, you’re so beautiful and you’re buff, whoa-WOW! You’re so strong! Oh! We should just hang out.” Wallace’s friends called his simpering tone, “Minnie Mouse-like,” but he disagreed, and said, “If girls just do that in their daily activities—if they want any guy to ask them out, it would be a lot easier and we’d see more dates on campus.”2. Make space.For Harry Potter fans, you will recall the fourth film in the series, “Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire,” during which Harry and Ron try to ask girls to the Yule Ball. Harry asks Ron, who is no more astute in the art of wooing than the Boy Who Lived, “Why do they always travel in packs? You can’t get one alone!” Jacob Moss, a sophomore in music composition from Oregon, observed a similar phenomenon at BYU-Hawaii. “Girls do this thing where they are always bunched up in their friend groups. In their mind, they’re just hanging out with their friends, but a guy sees that and thinks he doesn’t really see an opportunity to talk to her. He doesn’t want to fight off her friends.” Moss counseled, “You need to leave a little alone time for yourself next to cute boys if you want them to talk to you.”3. Make time.College is a busy time for people, and “the type of guy you want to date is going to realize this,” said Moss. “I know what girls do. They pretend they have all the time in the world when they like you, and when they don’t like you, they’re always busy,” said Moss. This is generally common knowledge among men, said Moss, and the way to use this to your advantage is to make time for the gentleman you like. Moss said “the most important part of the scenario” is if he likes you, the gentleman will “make it happen.” Otherwise, you’re wasting your time. 4. Make a date.“I don’t think there’s anything wrong with girls asking a guy out,” said Bonds. “I think guys are so worried about getting shut down because it happens all the time, and I’m sure girls are worried about the same thing.” So give men a break and take a risk. “Guys would like it if girls asked them on dates,” said Moss. While some question whether this means women have to pay for the date or not, as a believer in “feminist dates,” where women drive and pay, and wear pants to show how far women have come since the 1800s, I think it’s only right women give men a break from paying. However, Moss, a supporter of women’s rights, commented, “If you prescribe yourself to certain gender expectations, it would be kind of emasculating if the girl paid, but maybe you could go for a very liberating halfsie [Dutch] date.”
Writer: Alyssa Walhood